for Love in All the Wrong Places?
You've hung out in bars, you've
answered the personals, you've maxed out the plastic trolling online
dating sites, and you still haven't met the right person. Or, you've
ended up dating a series of potential perfect matches, only to be
disappointed. Why are your friends able to hook up, but you're always
left high and dry? Have all the good single people slid off the Earth?
Listen, if you continually date people who suddenly stop calling,
who turn out to have some type of social tic like complaining
incessantly or being mean to waiters, who never stop talking
about themselves, who are incapable of telling the truth, you
have a problem. And the problem is you.
If you want to attract a good, fun, and genuine person who will
love you and make you happy, then you must love yourself and
make yourself happy first. If you usually end up dating losers,
you are clearly short in the self-love department. You see, according
to the Law of Attraction, like attracts like. So if you don't
love yourself adequately, you will attract people who hurt or
disappoint you. Always.
Think this is a bunch
of hooey, do you? Well, give it a chance and your life will
change. I want you to go to the bathroom right
now, go to the mirror and look yourself in the eye, and say, "I
approve of myself." Say, "I love myself unconditionally."
Oooh, doesn't that feel weird? Doesn't it feel creepy?
Of course it does.
Most of us haven't been raised to love and approve of ourselves.
We have no problem looking in the mirror
and telling ourselves that we're hopelessly bald or that our
stomachs jiggle. Self-hatred is perfectly acceptable. Looking
in the mirror and saying, "I approve of myself, and I love
myself unconditionally" is weird. And scary.
But I want you to
keep it up. I want you to get behind the wheel of your car
tomorrow, and instead of speed dialing some chum
while you're flying down the parkway, say "I approve of
myself" out loud again and again and again. Say it one thousand
times. Say it at home while you're doing the laundry. Say it
when you're cooking dinner (or peeling it out of a paper bag).
After a couple of weeks, your subconscious will accept the fact
that you truly love and approve of yourself. And guess what?
You will attract better friends, better jobs, better circumstances,
and yes, much better dates. Your posture will improve, too.
You will find that
you attract people who are more reliable and less neurotic. "Good" single
people will seem to come out of the woodwork. You will not
have to work so hard to
get a second date or to maintain a relationship. People will
want to be with you because you feel good about yourself.
Self-love attracts love like a magnet. Go for it.
Terry Hernon MacDonald is the author of "How to Attract and Marry the Man
of Your Dreams." Visit her website at http://www.marrysmart.com.